It is not rare that I am busy, I work a lot, I train, I change places. The play of emotions is a part of my daily life. There are moments, when I cannot explain, why I am sad. Other time, regardless the difficult circumstances, I smile and I feel happy.
When I notice that fear or sadness or other negative emotions accompany me for a longer time, I try to resolve them immediately. I confirm myself that whatever I think I should fear or be sad about, doesn’t need these emotions, because I am safe and I am loved. Sometimes, I need to cry or talk about it, or have rest, have fun.
However, sometimes, I do not notice the stress (pressure) I put on myself. I don’t realize how much influence have particular words, action, place, my own expectations of myself. I hide all of it, being unaware of hiding it. I keep going and at some point my body screams !!!
Now, I want to listen.
TERRITORY MARKING CONFLICT.
1. “You lost the bounds of your territory”
I DON’T KNOW, WHAT TO EXPECT
feeling lost. You cannot expect anything. You are, where you are. Your life is unsure, because of a relationship, or carrier or other reason. Whatever it is, you don’t know, if it is good or bad, if you should change it or not.
Resolve the problem: Relax. Think about things, which you have, which gives you stability and safety. I am sure you can find them.
2. “You cannot mark your territory”
feeling powerless in regards to money or if your partner has control of the finances.
Resolve the problem: Money comes and goes. We should not focus on them so much. Sometimes we struggle a lot because of them. But sometimes, we have a lot of money and we are still not happy. Focus on, what makes you happy regardless the money.
I DON’T HAVE MY OWN SPACE
Living in a place that you cannot make your own (it can be because of the people you live with, financial reasons or no time).
Resolve the problem: Whatever reason you have, try to change it. Maybe change the place, where you live. Find time to make it more cozy. Make an effort to make it your home.
THREAT TO IDENTITY AND BELIEVES
You feel unable to mark your position in conversation for fear of rejection or having your beliefs challenged.
Resolve the problem: Believe in yourself. Love yourself the way you are. You don’t need to pretend to be somebody else just to please the other person. Be yourself. Speak your truth. In that way, you will attract people, who you can feel comfortable with.
SOMEONE HAS OVERSTEPPED THE BOUNDS OF YOUR TERRITORY
it can manifest in different situations. The one in my opinion most related to UTI is conflict in relationship, especially this involving sex.
I really like how the K.Mongomery, a doctor of Traditional Chinese Medicine described it:
“We may not always feel like having sex with our partner, but sometimes we do so anyway. We do this out of guilt, love, trying to make our partners happy, a sense of duty, etc. Sometimes when we have “mercy” sex, we end up enjoying it. Other times, we do not enjoy it as much. The point is that there are varying degrees of “yes” and enjoyment when it comes to sex and relationships, and none of this is usually a problem.
Once one partner starts feeling badly about wanting to say no so much, the body often steps in and says no for them.
Once the UTI symptoms set in, the person does not have to say no to sex, because the redness, burning and itching says no for them.”3
Resolve the problem: You should talk about it and figure out a proper way to deal with the situation. It can take more than one conversation, more than one day or week or month to come to an agreement. But it is worth it, because doing something against yourself is never a good idea.
The MIND has a huge power. This is why I always start the healing process from resolving its issues.
Equally important are also other more external factors.
– Sexual intercourse without enough lubrication,
– Oral sex,
– Sexual intercourse, when You are exhausted,
– Sexual intercourse in an unhygienic place.
Why sexual activity can trigger UTI:
⁃ Urinary tract normally is a sterile environment. In women cases, the urethra is close to rectum and vagina, from where the bacteria (most common – E.coli, from rectum), microbes, viruses, fungi and parasites can migrate and multiply in the urine. It can be as well pushed up to vagina during sex.
Why than they do not cause infection in their origin place? The urine create much better environment for them to multiply and cause an infection.
Not enough lubrication while sex can cause vaginal abrasion. Agitated soft tissues can easily lead to UTI (secondary infection). When we are tired the risk of infection increases.
EXCESS EXERCISE CONSIDERING ONE’S OWN CAPACITY !!! (according to Ayurveda)3
– Caring heavy bags,
– Doing sport without taking care of proper sleep and diet,
– Exhausting the body in other ways …
Sweets, soft drinks, fried food, alcohol and other acid foods are a perfect medium for bacteria, fungus, microbes and parasites to grow and multiply. As explained before, the way from rectum to urethra is pretty short. When your immune system is weakened and you eat a lot of above products, the risk of UTI increases.
Accordingly to Ayurvedic Medicine the below eating issues can lead to UTI:
– Taking food, medicament and other substances with sharp and dry quality,
– Intake of food before the previous meals is digested (overeating),
– Chronic indigestion,
Getting cold in pelvic or/and lower back region (anatomical place of kidney and reproductive system).
DRINKING NOT ENOUGH FLUIDS
(this alone do not cause UTI, however it has a crucial impact on the urinary tract health, when we are already at risk of UTI).
The bacteria go out with urine. If we don’t drink enough fluids, urinating is decreased, the bacteria, which are thrown away from the body with urine, instead stick to the walls of the urinary tract and cause infection.
How to treat and prevent UTI?
RESOLVE THE CONFLICT MENTALLY AND RELEASE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
If a person is experiencing ongoing symptoms, it is a sign that they haven’t fully let go of the original event or the emotional pattern. Change the environment or social behaviors, such as setting boundaries.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR SEXUAL LIFE
– use natural lubricants (coconut oil, oliven oil, aloe vera),
– put more attention to foreplay, focus on your pleasure, talk with your partner about your needs,
– pee before and after sex,
– keep the hygiene during sex,
– check if the condoms do not cause irritation,
– avoid sex, when you are tired or when your libido is low,
TAKE CARE OF YOUR SLEEP
do not exhaust your body, or if you have already done it, give it a proper rest after.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR DIET
– avoid all the products described above.
DRINK PLENTY OF FLUIDS
(water with lemon is really helpful)
KEEP THE URINARY AND REPRODUCTIVE SYSTEM WARM
– don’t sit on a cold surface,
– keep the waist area covered (warm),
– change your underwear after doing exercises.
– use natural soaps, which do not irritate vagina, or a special gynecological shower gel.
Ayurvedic herbs and proper rest (when you have diagnosed UTI).
For chronic recurrent UTI
– Probiotics: lactobaccilus reuteri and lactobacillus rhamnosus (are known for treating vaginal flora disruption).3